Episode Overview

In this episode of Better Than Before Breast Cancer, we’re talking about the concept of resistance — a natural, human response to discomfort, fear, and change.

Resistance can show up in many forms, whether you're facing a difficult decision, trying to adopt new habits, or navigating life after cancer treatment. But here's the good news: resistance isn’t something to fight. It's a powerful signal that you're on the verge of growth.

Let’s talk about:
-Why does resistance come up

-How can it affect your ability to move forward

-How to work with resistance instead of against it

I’ll give you practical steps to help you embrace resistance as a natural part of the healing journey and turn it into an opportunity for personal growth.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Understanding Resistance: Why resistance is a natural and protective mechanism our minds use to avoid discomfort and uncertainty.
• The Science Behind Resistance: Discover how theories like cognitive dissonance and the Fogg Behavior Model explain why we resist change and how to break free from it.
• How Resistance Shows Up: Explore the subtle ways we resist without even realizing it, like procrastination, perfectionism, and busyness.
• Practical Steps to Overcome Resistance: Learn actionable strategies to embrace resistance, including acknowledging it, breaking tasks into smaller steps, and using self-compassion.
• Self-Determination Theory: Find out how to tap into your autonomy and regain control to make healthier decisions that align with your goals and values.
• Why Resistance is Part of the Healing Journey: Learn how to reframe resistance as a sign of growth, especially after cancer treatment or any major life change.

Key Takeaways:

• Resistance isn’t your enemy. It’s a natural response to fear and discomfort that can guide you to a better, more resilient version of yourself.
• Embrace small, manageable steps to break through resistance and make progress, even when it feels challenging.
• Recognizing subtle forms of resistance, like busyness and perfectionism, can help you break free from inaction.
• Self-compassion and shifting your mindset are powerful tools to move through resistance with grace.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

•  Work with Laura
•  Fasting Cancer

• Cognitive Dissonance Theory by Leon Festinger: Psychology Today article
• The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
• Self-Determination Theory by Deci and Ryan: Learn More
• The Fogg Behavior Model

Call to Action:
If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed by resistance, remember that you’re not alone. Embrace it as a natural part of your healing journey. Share this episode with someone who may need to hear these messages today. And if you’re ready to take the next step in your healing, consider joining the Better Than Before Breast Cancer֭™ Life Coaching Membership for more support and actionable advice. You’ve got this!

Connect with Laura Lummer:

💌 Join my email list for weekly wellness tips & podcast updates → The Breast Cancer Recovery Coach

👩‍💻 Follow me on Instagram for daily inspiration → @thebreastcancerrecoverycoach

👩‍💻 Follow me on Facebook → The Breast Cancer Recovery Coach

🎙 Subscribe & leave a review on Apple Podcasts → Better Than Before Breast Cancer with The Breast Cancer Recovery Coach

🎥 Watch on YouTube → @BetterThanBeforeBreastCancer

SEO Keywords:
resistance, overcoming resistance, cancer recovery, personal growth, overcoming fear, self-compassion, healing journey, resistance in cancer treatment, how to deal with resistance, embrace resistance, cognitive dissonance, self-determination theory, Fogg Behavior Model, mindset shifts, resilience, moving through resistance, breast cancer support

Read the full transcript:

0:00
You're listening to better than before breast cancer with the breast cancer recovery coach, I'm your host, Laura Lummer. I'm a certified life coach, and I'm a breast cancer thriver. In this podcast, I will give you the skills on the insides and the tools to move past the emotional and physical trauma of a breast cancer diagnosis if you're looking for a way to create a life that's even better than before breast cancer, you've come to the right place. Let's get started.

0:33
Well, hello friends. Welcome to Episode 411

0:37
of better than before breast cancer, with the breast cancer recovery coach. I'm your host, Laura Lummer, and I'm super excited to have you here today, because we're going to talk about something that's really important, really. I think I say that a lot, I had to change the opening we're going to change, but a lot of things are important. You know, I think it's really interesting when it comes to health, when it comes to creating a life that we want, when it comes to supporting our ability to heal. There's lots of intricacies, there's lots of subtleties, and the more we can bring awareness to some of these subtleties, the more we realize that they are tools that can make our life a little bit easier. You know, we don't have to suffer so much, because this is something that I find myself saying often when I listen to different people talk about their lives, or I read stories or watch something on TV, and I'll say, wow, why do we make life so much harder than it has to be? And so often we do, and one of the things that comes up, one of the ways in which we make life harder than it has to be, is when we resist things. Resistance is a really big deal, and it creates a lot of suffering. And the reason this came up for me, well, there's a couple of reasons why I'm talking about this on this week's podcast. One of them is that it comes up a lot, and I have a client who is awesome. I just had this discussion with her the other day, on noticing resistance when it comes up to different cancer treatments, and on working on letting go of that resistance, and different ways that we can let go of it. So we're going to talk about that here today. A second reason why I'm talking about it is that this resistance has come up a lot for me, and I've shared many times on this podcast how fasting is a big part of my healing protocol. I do daily intermittent fasting, and then I do other prolonged fasts that are basically three days. Pretty much I've done a couple of five days, and I don't really like to go that long fasting. It's really challenging for me, but what I've noticed lately is, I know how good a three day fast is for me. I know the benefits, and I've just felt a lot of resistance come up. I just feel like not want to do it, because it's not comfortable, right? It's, I mean, you're hungry, and no one likes being hungry. But the benefits of it, the studies behind it, the science behind it. It's so beneficial, not only just for any healthy person's, you know, metabolic health, but for the way in which it supports and weakens cancer cells and makes them more susceptible to treatments, which is that integrated approach. You know, it's just so beneficial, but it isn't easy, and it's especially not easy. If I have the thought, it's not easy, right? If I focus on what's challenging about it, I'm in resistance. So I want to talk about resistance today, not only what it is, how we can recognize it, but what we can do about it. Because when we're in resistance in anything changing our life, in any way. We can really miss out on things that are really good for us, and we can make a lot more suffering in our lives. We can create a lot more suffering than we need to. So whether we're resisting change, we're resisting taking some kind of an action, or we're resistant to just what we feel right some so often we feel something and we don't want to feel it, so we want to resist feeling instead of really embracing and noticing how we feel. So we can be judging that in a way, or judging anything in our life in a way of we we have a story about what we should do or what we should feel, and so resistance comes up, especially when we're faced with challenges or something new. So I think I want to start off with saying that resistance is not our enemy. It's a very natural human response to discomfort, to fear, to uncertainty. Fear is another big one I talk about often. I say we we don't want to think about, I don't want to feel fear, because that's not even a human experience. We're going to feel fear. But when we acknowledge that we're going to feel something, we can change the way we handle it, and that's a. Same thing with resistance. So in today's episode, we're going to talk about how we can accept resistance and use it to our advantage, on our healing journey, on our manifestation journey, meaning creating the life you want and a life you love. So let's kind of define this. Let's start with the very basics. What is resistance? Well, resistance is a psychological and emotional response that we experience when we face something that feels uncomfortable or challenging. So this can be a new habit. It can be a difficult decision. It can be something we fear the consequences of, and it shows up in lots of forms. So resistance can show up as procrastination. It can show up as self doubt, avoidance, even self sabotage when you're thinking about making positive change, whether it's working out how to eat healthier, or it's asking for support in some way, and then suddenly you feel like you can't get yourself started. You might find yourself making excuses, like I'm too tired, or I'll start tomorrow. And that's resistance in action. So a minute ago, I shared a story with you about how I'm feeling a lot of resistance coming up to my normal cycle of my three day fast. Well, this week, I'm actually participating in a community fast that's being hosted by Dr nation winters, and it couldn't have come up at a more perfect time. One of my sisters is doing it. My daughter, her fiance, a couple of friends of mine have all joined this fast, and I'm going to talk a little bit more about support and how support plays a role in resistance. But it's for me, such a perfect time for this, because some of the things I just mentioned, some of the stories we tell ourselves, is what's been happening for me when my timing for my three day fast comes up and my brain is like, well, you know, you're already doing 1618, hour fast, that's good enough. Your blood sugar looks good, your fasting insulin looks good. But I know there's so much more benefit to a three day fast, right? So the resistance for me is coming up in this form of a story saying it's already good enough, right? It's already good enough, but somewhere deep down inside, I know it could be better, so I'm kind of embracing this community fasting experience and all of the accountability that's built into it to help me move past resistance. And you know, when we started, actually today that I'm recording, this was the first day of the community fast, and Dr Naisha opened the live call with saying, think about setting an intention for this fast and what it is you'd like to let go of. And so for me, that was easy. I was like, perfect. I want to let go of the resistance that I'm feeling. So what's important here is to know that resistance isn't something you have to beat yourself up over. So again, it's natural. We are wired to protect ourselves from things that feel difficult, things that are unknown, things that are scary. Our brain, this organ in between our ears, is wired for this. So there's actually a theory called the cognitive dissonance theory, and this was created by Leon Festinger in 1957 and that theory says that resistance is a normal reaction when our actions contradict our existing beliefs or attitudes. So for example, if you've been in a pattern of fear or avoidance and suddenly you try to take action, and that action requires courage or it requires a shift in your mindset, your mind, your brain, will push back. It's the brain's way of resisting discomfort and uncertainty. So in my example, fasting for three days, my brain is like, wait what? There's food available. We love food. Food sustains us. We don't want to go three days without food, right? My brain is pushing back at me, and there's no uncertainty, but there's certainly discomfort that's involved in that depending on the way I approach it, right? So just because resistance is natural does not mean it's always helpful, and that's where the real magic happens. When we start to understand resistance, we can learn how to work with it instead of work against it. So resistance isn't just a bad habit that we need to get rid of, like I talked about a minute ago. It's a really important protective mechanism. So when we're faced with something that we perceive as difficult or overwhelming or maybe even harmful, like think about, I think about when I had to, when I was going in for my first IV chemotherapy treatment. Man, was I in some big time resistance? Was there the possibility that this chemotherapy was going to save my life? Yes, was there the knowing that it was going to feel harmful, it was going to make me sick? Yes, right? So taking the first step toward change during treatment, after treatment, our mind will resist us because it wants to keep us safe. Okay, so when we're thinking about making a healthy lifestyle change, incorporating a new exercise routine, what does the brain do? It resists by saying, Well, you know, you don't want to get up that early to exercise. Like, isn't it better to sleep in we need more sleep. Sleep is better. Let's go with the sleep when we're working on difficult relationships. What does our brain do? It resists the uncomfortable change of maybe verbalizing what you're unhappy with, asking for change, stating your own needs, and it resists in a subtle way, by looking for justifications. Why something isn't that bad, right? All of these stories will come up. Valter Longo just came out with a new book called fasting cancer, and it's so good, I highly recommend it. I'll put a link to it in the show notes for this episode. But one of the things that I see come up often for me when I'm working with clients, is that when I suggest going into chemotherapy in a fasted state, there's a lot of resistance that comes up, right? So we already have the knowing that this treatment is going to most likely make us feel bad, feel uncomfortable, feel sick. And then there's the when we're sick, what do we turn to treats that help us feel good. Then there's the three days of fasting, right? A day or two before chemotherapy treatment, and during that day and the day after, that doesn't sound like fun, that doesn't sound cozy, right? And so there's a lot of resistance that comes up, and it's the brain saying, what if it doesn't work? What if it fails? What if I'm making the wrong choice? What if doing this ends up making this worse? And so lots of these patterns can keep us stuck in old patterns, and using, for example, one of the clients that I was talking about earlier here, there was quite a while, while she was in treatment, and we discussed different fasting protocols and how they may support her, but it went against the common knowledge in society. It went against what we commonly believe, and that is that we need to turn to carbohydrates to quote, unquote, soak up stomach acid, right if we're feeling sick or nauseous. And what's been wonderful to watch is that once she adopted this practice of fasting, and being in a fasted state and being in a high level of ketosis, her results in her side effects have improved tremendously, but it took a long time for the brain to not give up the resistance, but to be open to trying. So what about that? What about when we notice resistance coming up that keeps us stuck lots of times, I will suggest different healthy lifestyle patterns for people who are trying to support their healing and they resist it. And I'll ask, you know, what if you just tried? I mean, what is there any kind of negative consequence that could happen? And for most things, people can't think of a negative consequence other than maybe a little physical discomfort, like, for instance, a three day fast little physical discomfort. So we notice that resistance comes up, and what if we say, You know what? It's okay. I'm just going to acknowledge that it's there, but I'm willing to try right what if we stop resisting resistance. So there's a book called The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, and in that book, due says that our brain loves comfort, we're wired to fall into old habits because it requires less energy. So when we try to make new changes, whether it's eating better, whether it's exercising more resistance will come up because our brains are wired to stick with what we know. I can't emphasize that enough, but that doesn't mean that we can't change. It just means we need to be strategic about how we approach it. So obvious forms of resistance, procrastination, right? Putting things off, avoiding difficult tasks. But there are also very subtle ways that we work against resistance, and they look really fancy on the outside, right? We can resist things without even realizing that we're in resistance. So for example, let's say that you find yourself planning something over and over, but never taking action. That is a subtle form of resistance. You tell yourself you're researching, you're strategizing, you're thinking about what needs to be done, but you're never moving forward. Maybe you find yourself busy with things that feel super important, but they aren't actually moving in closer to your goals. When I work with people, and there's a lot of women who like me go through this experience and then realize I want to give back to this community, right? I want to do some kind of work in this area that supports people in feeling healthier and being empowered and creating. A healthy life. And they'll come to me for help in saying, How do I get started? How do I start this business? How do I become a coach? What do I do? And they will be stuck for months, or sometimes they'll tell me they've been stuck for years. I need another photo shoot, and I need to make my website look prettier. And I need, you know, this automation in place and that automation in place when we do things like that in any area of our life, right? Let's say you want to clean out your closet. I don't know, but before you can clean out the closet, you have to make room in this other bin, and before you clean out the closet, you have to check on this thing. So we tell ourselves we're busy, right? And that busyness gives us the illusion that we're doing something. But if that busyness is just a distraction from taking steps towards whatever it is you want to accomplish, taking steps towards supporting your healing, then it's just resistance dressed up like productivity. And then my favorite, my favorite pet peeve, let's not forget about perfectionism. Perfectionism is a very sneaky form of resistance. I was having a conversation with someone the other day, newly diagnosed. This person knew that they needed to start some exercise routine. Very important, very, very important for them, and right away they went into but my schedule is so busy and there's no reason for me to start it if I can't do it every day. I mean, if I'm only going to do it, like twice a week, then I shouldn't. I don't even want to do it at all. Perfectionism. So you're trying to tell me that exercising twice a week is worse than never exercising at all. Sorry, not buying it, right? This is a way we resist growth and progress. This is the all or nothing thing, right? This is I want to change my diet, but I can't do that all the time, and I can't eat clean, and I'm going to be having a party coming up, or I'm going to be going on a trip somewhere, so I'll just start when I get back right that's resistance. There's something called the self determination theory, and this was developed by Desi and Ryan in 1985 and it explains to us that resistance often comes up when we feel forced into action. We feel like we're losing a sense of control. And so this is the really important part of framing and reframing. If you feel like you have to do something, and I hear this language a lot, oh, I have to do it, right? I have to change the way I eat. I have to start working. I have to give up carbohydrates. I have to stop eating sugar. So whether it's a diet, whether it's a workout, anything, it can trigger resistance, because it threatens your autonomy, right? It makes you feel controlled. And none of us like to feel controlled, and so I tell my clients all the time, you are a grown ass person, and you do not have to do anything. You're choosing. You're making a choice, and you get to make that choice, but you realize that some people, let's say that they want to go keto. They want to start a keto diet. They want to be in ketosis, and in their mind, they have to give up all flour, all sugar, and they begin to make this lifestyle change out of fear, out of telling themselves, I have to do this, or I'll get a cancer recurrence, or I have to do this or I won't be able to heal when the truth is I'm choosing to do this, because for whatever evidence has been presented, I believe it will support my ability to heal and have a long healthy life when we can flip that switch and we can embrace our autonomy, even when it comes to cancer treatment. And so I'll often say this and try to help my clients, because it is almost like a violation, right? When we let's say that you do some kind of chemotherapy, or you're doing an aromatase inhibitor, or whatever it is that you're choosing, whatever treatment you're going through, whatever you incorporate in your life for long term, even after the active treatment period, you get to choose that. Now it often doesn't feel like we get to choose, because our thought is, if I don't do that, then I'll probably get cancer and die. Not a good option. None of us want that option, but the fact is that we do make that choice because we believe that's a good reason. So I did IV chemotherapy in 2011 because I believed that would save my life, right? That's what I knew. That's where my belief was at the time. That's what I believed, right? I did that surgery. I did whatever. The things that I've done radiation, all the things that I've done over the last, my God, almost 14 years now, since my first diagnosis of cancer, I've done them all because I chose them with the belief that they would allow me to live longer. That feels so much better than saying I didn't have a choice, right? I didn't have a choice is all about resistance. We always have a choice, but with every choice comes a consequence, and sometimes we don't want that consequence. So we don't own the choice, and then that doesn't help us feel good, right? That just exacerbates the resistance and the feeling like we're being controlled, and that's never fun. Okay, so even when you don't feel like you're free to choose your actions, or if you feel like some kind of a process is being imposed on you that is creating resistance, and so it's important to be aware of that and see that for yourself. So this is the first step in breaking through resistance. Is giving yourself autonomy, telling yourself I'm making a choice, and this choice is aligned with my values, this choice is aligned with my desire. This choice is aligned with the outcome that I want to create. It may not be a fun choice and it may be a difficult choice, but it's your choice, and that's so important when we're feeling resistance. So let's talk a little bit more about how we can work with resistance, instead of letting it hold us back, or even if we do take some kind of action, but we're full of resistance. How can we look at it in a different way so we don't suffer so much? And the very first step, I think you've gotten the message, is to embrace the idea that resistance is natural. It is a natural response. You do not need to fight it. You do not need to feel guilty about it, right? When people say to me, I just don't want to feel this fear. I'm just so scared. I don't want to be afraid, I say, you wouldn't be a person. You wouldn't be a human with the human brain if you weren't afraid, right? Cancer is freaking scary. Surgeries are scary, treatments are scary, changing relationships, changing jobs, starting new businesses, all this stuff is scary. And so when fear comes up, you know what? That tells me you're a normal human being with a functioning brain, right? So we don't want to feel bad about feeling fear or feeling resistance. We just want to say, of course, of course, I'm feeling this right now because what I'm about to do is scary or uncertain or difficult or unknown, right? So when we feel that resistance, can we look at it a little bit differently? Can we see that if we reframe it and we feel that resistance, that it can be kind of a signpost for us, right? It could be like saying you are right here on the threshold of something new, something that could be potentially exciting, and it's unfamiliar territory. So of course, my human brain is saying, Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, it's a little scary. Can we learn to recognize that signal, embrace it and know that it's just a part of the process, right? It's a part of the process. There's something called the fog behavior model, and it gives us some insight in to how we can make change easier and reduce resistance. So fogs model says that behavior is a result of three factors, motivation, ability and prompts. And if any of those three things are missing, resistance will naturally arise. So that's great to know, because to reduce resistance one we can make things easier on ourselves. Don't overthink it. Let's make it easy. We can provide ourselves reminders or prompts, and we can tap into motivation. So for example, when we're thinking about creating change, let's say we want to make a change in our diet. What kind of prompt would help you? What kind of reminder would motivate you, instead of looking at and saying, Oh, wow, I can't have that croissant today? Well, one yes, you can, because, once again, you're a grown ass person. You can do whatever you want, but you're making a choice not to why. Because you want to lower your blood sugar, or you want to have lower insulin levels, or you want to support your body's ability to heal. Right? What motivates you tap into that when we make things simple, we make them easy and we make them rewarding, we have less resistance. Resistance starts to just kind of fade away. So let's talk about these different ways that we can work with resistance rather than against it. So one, we feel resistance, we don't avoid it. We say, okay, okay, I see this. I'm feeling resistance. This is something new, and I acknowledge this, and it can take away the power from the resistance, just like it takes away power from fear, right? When we feel fear, like I'm scared, I'm scared, I'm scared. But if we say, of course, I'm scared, because this is about to be a scary thing, right? We acknowledge it, we embrace it. We don't push it away. Break things down into smaller steps. So whenever there's something you're resisting, and yes, I do mean something as simple as cleaning out your garage or cleaning out your closet, anything in life, when the task feels overwhelming, break it down into smaller. Are manageable pieces. So simple example, oh my gosh, I need to clean out my closet. It's a disaster. My clothes are so heavy that the little poles bending in the center I need to get rid of, let's see. I have three different body sizes worth of clothes that are in the closet. I need to get rid of them. And then we think, oh my gosh, it's gonna take an entire day break it down, and we say to ourselves, you know what? I'm going to spend 30 minutes on this day. Let's say Saturday. I'm going to spend 30 minutes on Saturday, and I'm going to set a timer, and I'm going to start at the back of my closet, and I'm only going to spend 30 minutes, and I'm going to spend 30 minutes once a week until I get through the whole thing and it's gonna feel so good, because it's a victory. Every small step is a victory. So you spend your 30 minutes, you step back, you're like, wow, I've got this whole bag of stuff to take over to the goodwill. Fantastic. I just made progress. So breaking things down into simple, digestible pieces, and that fogs model suggests that breaking these tasks down and making it simple lowers the barrier to action. It lowers the resistance. If you think about me telling this to you right now, if you think about me saying, go to the gym for an hour a day, seven days a week, if you are someone who doesn't exercise at all that, does your brain just automatically go, Oh, my God, my God. That is so much. But if I say, Hey, how about if we started to incorporate 10 minutes of exercise, let's say 10 minutes of walking and squatting three times a week, does your brain have a little less resistance so to say, Well, I think I could do that. I could do that, right? So breaking things down, small, digestible pieces, reduces resistance. And we want to shift our focus from the outcome to the process, because if the outcome is so big, then it's going to sound so hard, and it's going to bring up more resistance. So instead of focusing on how hard it might be or on what we could do wrong, we want to shift the mindset into the enjoyment and the benefits of the process. We want to celebrate the small wins. Right when somebody has wants to lose weight, let's say and we have a lot of weight. Let's say we want to lose 50 pounds or more. If we start off saying, I'm going to lose 50 pounds, holy moly, that is a lot. That sounds like a lot, but if I just say, You know what, I'm going to see if I can drop five pounds this month, what small changes would I have to do to lose five pounds of body fat this month. That's a little more doable. Then when you get to the five pounds, you're like, Heck, yeah, I just proved to myself I could manage this. But if we only think about the 50 pounds, then we lose five pounds, and we're like, oh my god, I saw 45 pounds ago. That was so hard, right? So we gotta be easy on ourselves. Make it simple, break it down. Celebrate the small steps, because each one of them is a success. So we wanna switch that think. You wanna reframe your thoughts from thinking it's too hard to this might be difficult, but it's helping me grow. It's supporting my healing. Whatever it is that's your motivation, right? Reframing that into an opportunity for personal growth, it helps to just solve that strength of resistance. So what I love about studying behavior change is that there's so many different theories surrounding it, and another one, a couple I've talked about, but another one is called the self determination theory, and it teaches us that reframing a task like something we choose to do, as I talked about a couple minutes ago, makes it so much easier to follow through, because we're empowered, right? This is my choice. I'm choosing it, and so yes, I want to do it.

28:59
We also Absolutely and you know that I talk about, this is the root of everything we do. This is the root of changing our environment, changing our diet, changing our relationships, doing work that we love. It's the practice of self compassion. We resist things oftentimes because we're afraid of feeling inadequate. I messed up, I'm not good enough. We're afraid of failure, and so it's really important to show yourself the same kindness and patience that you would show anyone you cared about, any friend, any loved one who is struggling with something. When you're doing something and it's challenging, it's so important to be compassionate. Say to yourself, yeah, this is challenging, but I'm doing it because I choose it out of love for myself and getting support. So I talked about joining this challenge, right? Joining this three day fast. It's a community fast. I brought people I know in. We're supporting each other, getting support through a COVID. Through a friend, through a support group. It's just a game changer. Having someone to walk with you through your resistance makes all the difference, because you don't have to face the resistance alone, and you get to help the other person too. You know my daughter, just before I started recording this podcast, my daughter texted me, she says, I'm hungry, right? And I said, I know I am too. So then we could say to each other, when was the last time you had a glass of water? Could you have a glass of tea? Right? And we could support each other and empathize with each other and say, yeah, it's challenging to go long periods of time without putting food in your body. But neither one of us are going to die. We've got plenty of energy stored on our body. This is safe. We know what we're doing, so having support is so important. So in addition to these little steps that will help you create some awareness, help you reframe the way you think about resistance, help you embrace resistance as a natural part of the human experience. The next time you feel resistance rising, in addition to those things, maybe just pause and ask yourself, what is this resistance trying to teach me? Right? What's the next step I can take, even if it's just a little one? What is this resistance coming from? What is it telling me? So I know that if you're listening to this podcast, I was gonna say, you know, I know that you've already faced enormous challenges, because most people coming here have already been through cancer, but there's a lot of listeners who haven't. And you know what? I know you've been through great challenges too. Because if you're an adult human being, you have faced challenges in your life. We all do, and I don't care what those challenges are, or how you judge your challenge to be better, worse, less intense than someone else's. Your challenges are are individual to you. Your suffering is individual to you, and it can't be compared to other people's. So I know that you've been through challenges, and you have everything inside of you to face the things that you've been challenged with, and you have everything inside of you to face whatever comes next. So we don't have to be afraid of resistance, because if we can embrace it and keep moving forward, then you already know this right on the other side of that, you're going to find a version of yourself who is stronger, who is wiser and who is more resilient than whatever was happening before, that resistance and resilience is just such a gift. Resilience is such a powerful thing to possess. All right, friends, if you want more help, more support, more coaching, more understanding of how your own body and your own brain works. Come and find me at the breast cancer recovery coach com, join my better than before breast cancer membership. Participate in group coaching, in individual coaching, go through all the lessons and courses and everything that's involved in there and do that. Work on yourself. This is important. Earlier here in this show, I said something about we have to when we're rewiring the brain, we have to have this support and this constant input, because our mind is conditioned to stay stuck in what we've already believed, and when we're not doing constant input, like through podcasts, through coaching, through support, through reading, we're going to slip back into old habits, or we're going to stay stuck in them. It's the same thing with a healthy lifestyle. And I say this all the time. If you start going to the gym, you start eating better, your body starts feeling good. You started to put all a little bit of muscle, you started to feel good, and then you stop, it will go back to what it was before you started. And the same thing happens with your mind. If you start making positive changes moving forward with your mental, emotional, psycho, spiritual way of being, and then you stop doing the work that helped you to move forward, you will slip back into old condition beliefs, because it is that strong, and that's the whole science of behavior change, right? You've got to keep doing things to support the rewiring of the brain to move forward. They do get easier and easier, but with consistent input and support all right? So check out my website, the breast cancer recovery coach.com I've got some free downloads there for you. I've got some standalone courses. We've got my membership, which is awesome, and of course, metabolic health coaching, where we look at your labs, we take your nutrition genome, and we get a really great understanding of the language of your body and what you need to support it in a way that it is designed to need, so that you don't have to be so confused over what is the best thing for you. And we have less confusion. We have less resistance. All right, I will talk to you again soon, and until then, be good to yourself. Take care

34:51
you've put your courage to the test, laid all your doubts to rest. Your. Mind is clearer than before. Your heart is full and wanting more. Your Future's at the door.